The 7 Signs of a Cheating Spouse
by Wendell K. Cribbs
Suspicion can ruin an otherwise healthy relationship. If you suspect that your spouse has been cheating on you, then you should immediately take steps to try and determine whether or not they are actually being unfaithful. Lingering doubt can poison your interactions and have a severely negative impact on the future of your relationship.
This article will highlight a number of signs that your spouse may be cheating on you. However, you should be advised that simply because your spouse may exhibit the signs of cheating doesn’t in itself confirm that they actually are.
If you are the victim of infidelity you don’t have to put up with a cheating spouse. You have done nothing to deserve to be disrespected and mistreated.
What follows are some IMPORTANT resources to help you catch a cheat.
Among the more common signs of a cheating spouse are:
Your spouse brings home presents or small tokens that they seem to care very much about. You should ask about the gifts and try to get to the bottom of why they were received. An honest spouse will usually have a very good reason why they have received the item and why they care about it in particular. For instance it may be completely harmless, such as a special reward for excellent performance at work. In any case, your spouse should be completely honest with you about it. If they appear evasive, you’ll need to look into it further.
Be wary if your spouse suddenly begins to leave the room or go to a quiet place away from you to take phone calls. They may pass this off as something insignificant, but if it happens frequently it may be cause for concern.
And beware if your partner suddenly purchases new clothes, especially underwear items. In my experience, this can be a common sign that a spouse is having an affair. New undergarments (especially sexy lingerie) purchased for no special reason should raise suspicion if your spouse doesn’t wear them for you.
If your spouse takes trips out of town without you, you may have reason to be concerned. This is especially true if in the past it was more common that the two of you would travel together, even on business trips. Inquire as to why it is necessary that they go without you, but don’t press the issue should they become defensive.
Another sign that is common when a spouse is cheating is that they fail to answer their cell phone when you call, particularly during times that you know they should be available. Common excuses for this behavior include “I had the phone on vibrate and didn’t hear it ring” or “my battery must have died”. That certinaly may happen once or twice, but if these alleged phone problems persist you may have good reason to be concerned.
The frequency and quality of lovemaking often goes downhill in a relationship that includes a cheating spouse. This is due to the fact that the cheater is usually being satisfied outside of your relationship. This is not only true of lovemaking, but other forms of affection they normally share with you. If they suddenly become cool and distant, and if that attitude persists for more than a short while, it may be a warning sign.
Be suspicious if your spouse suddenly has a pattern of having to often work late. Many relationships grow out of on-the-job interactions among co-workers, and the same is true for infidelity. Your spouse likely spends as much (or more) time with their co-workers as they do with you. You should have courage and ask your spouse directly about having to work late so often. If they claim they’re putting in overtime, keep track of the hours and compare it to their paystub if possible.
If you suspect that your spouse is cheating with a particular individual, you might consider using the suspect’s name to your advantage. Casually dropping the name or inquiring about the person could put a cheating partner on the defensive. It may be as simple as asking “so who is _______?” and waiting for a response. If your spouse seems upset, worried, angry, or annoyed, you have reason to be concerned.
Your suspicions, even if they are well founded, can poison your relationship.
Finally, the internet has become a common tool for infidelity, whether it be for the purposes of corresponding with a lover (via IM, chat, or e-mail) or even for carrying on an “online affair”. If your spouse is spending more time on the internet, especially if they’re doing so behind your back when you’re away, asleep, or seemingly uninterested, you should look into the situation. Be particularly wary if you walk in on them unexpectedly and they quickly close an open window on their PC or quickly shuts the lid on their laptop. It may be that they were engaged in some behavior that they don’t want you to know about.
The most important thing that you must do is make sure you have enough hard evidence before you confront your cheating spouse. Don’t accuse them until you’re as certain as you can be. If they ARE cheating and you accuse them prematurely, they may go to greater lengths to cover up their infidelity or take greater care not to further your suspicions. Do not confront them until you make sure you have enough information in hand to make your accusation stick.
Do any of these signs fit your spouse? If so, then it may be time for you to figure out how to catch them red-handed and put an end to your suspicions, one way or the other. It is far better to know for sure, even if the news is bad, than to live with your nagging doubts. If you are being cheated on, it is your right to know. Don’t be a victim any longer.
About the Author:
Wendell K. Cribbs is a widely-published author who counsels couples on relationships and sexuality.
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